Security guard killed at hotel was loving dad, coach; his family is outraged by video
KENT COUNTY, MI – The man who shot and killed a hotel security guard propped up a cellphone to record the slaying and posted it on social media where the victim’s family happened upon the video, the family said.
The video – removed by social-media sites, police said – only adds to the tragedy for John Cain Jr.’s family, his father said.
John Cain Sr. said his daughter called out after “she saw the video of my son getting shot.”
His 38-year-old son was killed early Tuesday, Nov.
2, at Grand Rapids Inn on 28th Street SW and Buchanan Avenue. He was working as a security guard when management asked him to expel Jacob Grygorzyk, 21, and another man, for unruly conduct, including playing loud music.
John Cain Jr., 38, of Grand Rapids, was shot and killed early Tuesday, Nov 2, while working as a security guard at Grand Rapids Inn in Wyoming. (Photo provided by John Cain Sr.)
The video showed Grygorzyk looking back at a cellphone, propping it up when it fell, then shooting the unarmed Cain after he knocked at the door, the victim’s father said.
The video aired on Snapchat and Facebook, police said.
Grygorzyk then went to his mother’s house, within walking distance of the hotel, and shot himself in his bedroom – a “cowardly” way out, one of the victim’s friends said.
Cain Sr. said: “He took the easy way out.”
He said his son’s loss has devastated his family and beyond.
He was Dad to 8-year-old Niahmari, “Big Unk” to his nieces and nephews and coach to football players from Rocket to semi-pro leagues.
“He was a good son, a great father, an uncle, a mentor, a football coach,” his father said.
His granddaughter is particularly distraught.
“That was her best friend,” he said. “They did everything together. We’re just going to have to be there for her.
She’s not alone. We’ll all help raise her.”
He said it is difficult to talk about “the man who ended her father’s life.”
He said he had trouble accepting the loss at the hands of another. It’s the kind of tragedy that always seems to happen to someone else.
“You never imagine. …
Then reality sets in. It hurts. There’s a lot of pain there.”
A security guard at the Grand Rapids Inn was shot and killed early Tuesday, Nov.
2, Wyoming police said. (John Agar|MLive)
Shortly after the the shooting, he said, another son told him that his son had been shot
He went to the scene and waited while police investigated and obtained a search warrant. It was a helpless feeling. His son’s body was at the scene for hours, he said.
Cain Jr., also the son of Belinda Stanley, always loved sports, especially football.
He shared his enthusiasm with younger family members.
He was a softie with his daughter.
“He’d be on the floor playing Barbie dolls,” his father said. “(The gunman) took that from her. Now, she doesn’t have it.”
The father said he slept only a few minutes on Tuesday. He hoped when he woke it was all just a nightmare.
“My son, who’s got my name, who I raised, is no longer here.
Is no longer here.”
He said he still remember holding his son shortly after he was born. He didn’t really know what to do. He was only 18.
It was amazing.”
He said he raised his children to be strong. Once they started walking, they were done crawling.
His son shared those lessons with his players. They responded to his loss in messages to the coach’s Facebook page.
“Man of big dreams say it ain’t so,” one posted.
Another wrote: “There are really no words to describe the senseless loss of such a great man. Last time we spoke I told you how proud I was of you. Our city needs more like you and now we are one less.”
Said another: “Rest Easy Coach.”
A GoFundMe page has raised nearly £4,000 to help with funeral expenses.
Wyoming police Lt. Brian Look on Tuesday, Nov.
2, shares information about the killing of a security guard at a Wyoming hotel. (John Agar|MLive)
Jon Polack, former president of Grand Rapids Thunder semi-pro football, coached with Cain for years. He said Cain helped many young athletes, including those “at difficult times in their lives.
He really had an impact on them. He spent a lot of time with them outside of football. He was a genuine, caring, fun-loving kind of guy.”
He had just talked to Cain on Sunday.
Cain was excited about putting together a new team, the Grand Rapids WildKats. Cain had questions about running a team. He asked Polack to join him.
“He was a ‘players coach.’ He always connected with the players,” Polack said.
He said the loss was hard to accept.
Cain was working, just like he’s supposed to do.
He was mild-mannered and wouldn’t be looking for trouble, his friend said.
He said the gunman must have been troubled.
But, shooting himself after killing Cain was “cowardly,” he said.
Grygorzyk’s mother found him dead, police said.
“He destroyed two families: His own and John’s family,” Polack said.
No one answered the door at the suspect’s family’s house.